This information is what you will need to base your mentoring experience. Print two copies,
one for you, one for your Mentor when you go to discuss the aspects on mentoring and to discuss whether or not they will
work with you. Leave one with your Mentor so she can know what to expect and you sign it. Have her sign
yours and both of you initialize each subject matter and be in total agreement.
BASIC MENTORING INFORMATION
General Information Regarding Mentoring:
Mentoring is based on respect, honor and trust. Time is a valuable commodity with any one, so both
Mentor and the Mentee are to show respect and honor to one another by being on time and respecting all information
shared with one another. There is a basic trust factor that must stay in effect because of any information given
that may be delicate or very personal.
Being late is never acceptable. Never make one another wait on the other. This means you
will always leave home early to arrive on time. Call ahead if you will be late - you have the phone contact,
before the Mentor has left to meet you so you may either cancel or rearrange an alternate time. If you make
your Mentor have to wait on you after the second time, she is to deny any more mentoring. No exceptions.
It is important to meet in a comfortable, relaxed setting where you won't be hurried or interupted and can really talk.
Either shut off cell phones for the 30-45 minutes together or have the ringer off.
1. The first meeting is to make your desires known regarding mentoring.
2. The 2nd meeting will be one where agree on subjects you will discuss
and you will stick with this until your mentoring time is fulfilled. Otherwise you will be doing 'shotgun' mentoring
and hitting at too many things to see progress.
3. The 3rd meeting is where you will share a bit of your lives with one another. You may each
bring a question or two that you might want to ask to get to know one another, but this meeting is solely for getting to know
one another. Have the questions to be open-ended that cannot be answered by a yes or no.
3. The 4th meeting is where you can begin to get into problem solving but not before.
4. It is never acceptable to ask very personal questions of your Mentor that have nothing to do with
your mentoring session.
5. Confidentiality is a must. This means you don't tell others what your
mentor/mentee told you and you do not discuss your process with anyone until the mentoring sessions are completed.
6. You will go to meet prepared, with information gathered, materials
ready (pad and pencil/pen) when you have agreed on subject matter.
7. You will never, never, ever bring a third party with either of
you. Not acceptable, not a good idea, and will hinder mentoring.
8. Write downs: You are to work on shared goals for this mentorship.
You are to keep a notebook with subject matter for the time with Mentor and the conclusion for each meeting.
9. You will make sure to have a conclusion and have fun with what you
do. You will remember to laugh and have a positive closure each time and never leave on a heavy note unless
there is a positive direction with it.
10. In the meanwhile make sure you have a plan for the next meeting
with your Mentor before you leave one another. Make the plan even if the plan must be altered later.
